in like a lamb, out like a lion

Few of us have not heard the folk saying, “If March comes in like a lamb, it will go out like a lion,” or the reverse, of course. While the adage may more likely originate from astrology than from meteorology, the truth is that it has a 50/50 chance of being correct in any given year. Not really bad odds.

March is a fickle if not even erratic month. Sitting on the edge of Winter and Spring, its weather tends to flip-flop from warm to cold to wet or windy to higher or lower than average or “normal,” whatever that really is. Does it sort of make you think about some people you know? They run hot, then cold. They’re easy to be with, then difficult. Their moods and behavior exhibit the whole range of “normal,” again, whatever that is.

When dealing with difficult people, here are a few things to keep in mind. First, be empathetic. Making an effort to understand where they are coming from isn’t only about treating them fairly, it’s also about treating yourself fairly. Understanding the reasons they think or act as they do, makes it easier for you to anticipate their moods and even their behavior.

Second, be yourself—your best self, that is. There’s no need to be harsh or judgmental, but a little honesty won’t hurt. Often, when someone is being difficult, they are likely to respond to another being direct or honest about what they see. You don’t have to be a therapist to reflect to the other person that their words or their behavior are not easy to be with.

Third, try to limit your exposure. Most people I know have their plate full, so to speak, with obligations and responsibilities. Limiting the amount of time you spend with someone who seems to require extra effort, allows your time with others to be more enjoyable. It’s in that enjoyment that we tend to derive energy for dealing with situations and people that are more stressful.

And last, do some things that regenerate and revitalize your own reserves. Nutritious foods, adequate rest, uplifting conversation, and a little exercise are essential to positive mental and physical health. After all, if you are taking good care of yourself, it’s less likely that someone else may write a blog (with you in mind) about how to deal with difficult people!